My Mom Can Beat Up Your Mom!

“My mom can beat up your mom!” “You should see my mom fight!” “Our neighbors are afraid of my mom!” Is it just me, or does this kind of bragging just sound bizarre? I've heard this recent perversion of an old traditional boast from some of our MYC kids lately. If bragging about fighting isn't stupid enough by itself, then feeling proud of your mom for her ability to be violent is pathetic. Things get sadly twisted when dad isn't around to be the provider and protector, or when the kids don't know enough about dad to brag about him. Last year a 12 year-old boy threatened me that his dad would beat me up, (his way of saying it was too foul to print here), because I wouldn't let the boy butt in front of a line of smaller boys in order to be the first to hit a pinata. I knew his family situation. He bounced back and forth between mom and grandma and dad wasn't around. I could have reminded him that he couldn't even find his dad to have him try to beat me up, or that his dad was probably in jail or to too drunk to do it. Instead I just told him, as I was escorting him out the door, that his dad could come and speak to me about his behavior if he wanted to do so. There was no need to remind this hostile young boy of reality and increase his pain or his need to pretend that his dad was capable of standing up for him. Anger is a common trait among kids with dads who have disappeared from their lives. I never heard from his dad and felt no need to hide or to get some big friends.

God created the family and the role of the father includes responsibilities that require staying with the kids and the mother of the kids. Some of these responsibilities are to provide a home and other physical needs, and to protect the family from harm. In the work I do and the kids I know, I am constantly being reminded of the damage done to children and to our society by guys who get a girl pregnant and then leave her and the kids to fend for themselves. A new service is opening in our town for housing mothers and children. I have to admit that, unfortunately, there is a need for such a facility. I also know that this will not permanently solve the problem for our community or for the women living there temporarily. The problem will be solved and prevented when men act like men and take responsibility for their actions and for the consequences of those actions. If you really are a man, you won't have sex or get a woman pregnant until you are faithfully and permanently married to her and are committed to doing your best to meet the needs of your kids. Instead of only treating the symptom, we also need to admit and solve the problem. Ideally, why should this home for women need to ask the community for money? Get it from the guys that got them pregnant! The destruction of the family didn't start with the homosexuals. It started with irresponsible guys and the girls and the government who allow and encourage them to get away with ignoring their responsibilities. God's way is the only way that works. The tragedy of homeless unwed mothers has a solution. Let's obey God and solve it!